7 Signs You Are Suffering from Emotional Dependency (and Why It’s Not Just “Love”)
To put a name to what happens when a relationship takes up all the room.
The PsicoDiversa blog
We write about what we hear in session: relationships that hurt and are hard to leave, behaviors that soothe for a while and weigh on you the rest of the day, anxiety, trauma. If you are trying to understand what is happening to you, reading is a good way to start. At your own pace, and with nobody asking you for anything.
Emotional dependency and bonds
It is the largest block on the blog because it is our specialty. Relationships that become the center of everything, the fear of being left without that person, partners who appear and disappear or who make you doubt your own memory. If several of these titles sound familiar, therapy for emotional dependency explains how we work with it.
Obsession or Traumatic Bond? Why You Can’t Leave That Relationship That Hurts You
Knowing that something hurts you is not always enough to be able to leave it. Here is why.
Is It Love or “Love Bombing”? How to Identify Love Bombing at the Beginning of a Relationship
When all that attention in the first few months is not as good a sign as it looks.
What is Gaslighting in a Relationship: Therapy to Recover Your Self-Esteem After Manipulation
If you come out of every argument apologizing without quite knowing why, this one will sound familiar.
How to Recover from Narcissistic Abuse: Signs and Trauma Therapy in Málaga
Rebuilding yourself after a relationship that left you doubting even your own memories.
Codependency: A Guide for Family Members Trying to “Save” a Loved One
If the person with the dependency is someone you love, this one is for you.
Emotional Responsibility and Healthy Relationships: LGTBIQ+ Affirmative Psychology in Málaga
What emotional responsibility really means (and what it does not), from affirmative psychology.
How to Choose the Best Psychologist Specializing in Addictions in Málaga
What to look at before starting therapy with any professional.
Compulsive behaviors
The phone, shopping, work, food. Very different behaviors with a similar mechanism: for a moment they soothe something that hurts further down. In therapy for addictions we explain how that mechanism is worked with, not only the behavior.
Work Addiction (Workaholism): When Being “Hyper-Productive” Hides an Emotional Void
Sometimes the dedication everyone applauds covers a discomfort nobody sees.
Emotional Hunger and Anxiety: Online and In-Person Psychological Treatment to Stop Binge Eating
Eating without hunger to soothe something that is not hunger, and how it is worked with in therapy.
Trauma and approaches: EMDR, IFS and ACT
Articles about where the distress comes from and about the models we work with: EMDR to process traumatic memories, IFS to listen to your internal parts, ACT to change your relationship with what hurts. The jargon-free explanation of each model is in how we work.
Childhood Wounds: How Trauma Shapes the Way You Love in Adulthood
What you lived through as a child shows up, years later, in the way you love.
Somatization and Trauma: How EMDR Helps Heal Physical and Emotional Pain
When the doctor says there is nothing wrong and the body hurts anyway.
Does EMDR Work for Trauma? The Science Behind Eye Movement Therapy
What the research says about EMDR, explained plainly.
Impostor Syndrome: Treatment with IFS Therapy to Overcome Toxic Self-Demand
That voice insisting it was luck, and that sooner or later they will find you out.
IFS Therapy: How to Make Peace with Your “Inner Critic” and Stop Sabotaging Yourself
What the inner critic is, and how IFS helps turn its volume down.
Therapy in Málaga
What we see in the city where the practice is: anxiety, depression, loneliness that nobody chose. There are two possible ways to work with it, individual therapy in Málaga and group therapy.
Psychologist for Depression in Málaga: When to Stop “Just Trying Harder” and Ask for Real Psychological Help
Why “cheer up” does not work, and when it makes sense to ask for professional help.
Anxiety in Málaga: Why Living in Paradise Can Also Be Stressful (and Where to Seek Help)
Living where other people spend their holidays is tiring too. On anxiety in this city.
Unwanted Loneliness and Depression: Why Group Therapy Is Your Best Ally
Loneliness you did not choose feeds depression; the group is one way out.
Art Therapy in Málaga: Unlock Your Emotions Through Creativity
You do not need to know how to draw. What art therapy is and what it is for.
The Psychological Benefits of Therapeutic Hiking in the Montes de Málaga
What walking in a group and in nature adds to a therapy process.
Frequently asked questions
Who writes the articles?
We write them at the center, out of what we see in session and the themes that come up most often. That is why the examples can sound so specific: they come from real stories, told without any detail that would let you recognize anyone. You can get to know us here.
I have seen myself in several articles. Does that mean I have emotional dependency?
Not necessarily, and we would ask you not to put the label on yourself. The articles describe common patterns, and almost everyone recognizes themselves in one of them at some point in their life. Seeing yourself in a text is useful information, not a diagnosis. If the doubt stays with you, an assessment interview answers it far better than any reading: write to us and we look at it together.
Does reading the blog replace therapy?
No. Reading helps you understand and put words to what you feel, and that is already worth something, but an article talks about general patterns and therapy works on your case, with your history and at your pace. If something you read stirs you up more than you expected, write to us and we look at it with you. And if what you need is not what we do, we will tell you plainly.
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